Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. My wife is always mad at me. How do I get my wife to relax?
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I have, for a lot of my life, suffered from a victim complex -- you know the one, where everything in your life is someone else's fault. It is only now, a good six years after my second divorce that I am starting to see how I was no treat to live with. Oh, I knew I had made mistakes, I just thought the other person had made more.
Just a few hours ago, I saw someone I know pretty well in the grocery store, but as he stopped to talk, I kept walking. Am I the asshole? My typical routine is to replay these awkward interactions in my mind 3, times until I commit another faux pas that takes its place.
It's easy to spot and avoid a guy who is definitely an asshole, but there are plenty of secret, undercover asshole dudes out there, just waiting for the right time to show their true colors. When you tell him a cool story about how this man sent a nice email complimenting something you did at work, he says, "He's probably hitting on you. But really, you're boning a guy who looks inward to his personality, sees a pile of rotting garbage, and shrugs it off, because somehow, in his depraved mind, being bad and knowing it is way better than just being bad.
Redditors give their opinions, and the most-upvoted comment becomes the verdict. While a crowd of 1. Here are the best.
I am an open book to anyone I find myself comfortable talking to. Little did I know that too much honesty would bring me no good in a relationship. How did he use this against me?
When our partner behaves like an ass, we think they should own their wrongdoing and deliver an apology forthwith — preferably carved in stone and mounted on a plaque for all to see. That seems fair. I mean, we just want responsibility taken, apologies given, and our needs metam I right?